I wear contact lenses mostly (since I was a senior in HS) but I had a pair of backup glasses which I wore whenever I didn't have my contacts in and needed to see, cuz I'm like, blind.
Anyway, I had the same pair for like 10-11 years and thought I'd keep them since they worked OK and didn't really want to spend the money on new ones.Well, the other day the frames finally fell apart, so today I went to get new ones. Luckily I just had my annual contant lens exam a few weeks ago so I had a prescription for glasses. I went to a local superstore with a good reputation and the girl who helped me so was so funny...she went on and on and ran all over the place looking for frames she thought would look good on me (her instincts were good). Once we picked the frames out (one pair regular, one pair sunglasses) she was doing her computer work and we were chatting and here comes the dreaded question..."Do you have any kids?"
I decided to answer honestly. I said I didn't have any living children and I told her about Michelle. She said she was so, so sorry and sounded truly shocked and even apolgized for asking! I said no, it's a perfectly legitimate question. She was so nice about it and agreed that it was a horrible thing and how could anyone say anything to minimize such a loss? Wow! Then a little while later she told me she can't have kids...so of course I said I was sorry for that, and she told me she went to a new doctor and out of the blue he said "you know you can't have kids, right?" AAAAAACCCKKK!!! That poor girl!!
Anyway, I think there was kind of a bond there. I was just so thrilled that this perfect stranger was so kind and so sad for me and didn't say stupid things...and I feel terrible for her that she can't have children of her own. She said at first when she found out, she didn't want kids, so she didn't care, but now that she's older she would like to be a mom and she just split up with a boyfriend who wanted kids she couldn't give him. How sad is that? (I don't know why they actually broke up, though...)
Anyway I thought I would share that with you...not everyone in the world is an idiot!
(((HUGS))) to all you angel mommies...you ARE moms and your angels are REAL and nobody can take your love for them away from you!
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I saw this on myspace! :)
you need to blog here more often! :)
Yeah, well, if I thought anyone was reading it, I would...I'm glad you are at least :-)
I'm glad the dreaded question ended on a good note. It doesn't seem to get easier anytime I'm asked it. I actually feel horrible guilt if I say No, I don't have kids. The only time I've said no was a few months ago. I bought my husband an Xbox360 and a LIVE account so we can play online with our friends in other states or where ever, anyway...we were playing UNO with 3 other people from all over (we all had cameras on so we could see each other) and after chatting a bit, they started the "get to know you" bit and asked if we had kids. I paused and said no. My husband turned and looked at me in shock. I muted my microphone and told him....I didn't want to share Jack's story with perfect strangers on the xbox. Then he said, you tell perfect strangers in real life the story when asked all the time. LOL
He was right...I have felt guilty ever since, even though I know I shouldn't. So I made the decision then to never say no. To always share his story because you never know...maybe that stranger asking has their own story and just needs the opportunity to share it or they happen to share it with someone who is "touched" by it.
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